Sometimes, the best way to find success in a pursuit is to just go for it and take the plunge, even when it’s scary or tough to do so.
That was the message that Wes Schaeffer, a business owner and sales specialist, tried to bring home to an audience of business owners during a salon created by the organizers of TEDx Temecula that was held from 6 to 9 p.m. on Thursday, May 29. It was held inside the business exchange building located at 43200 Business Park Drive.
The salon, titled “Finding Success Within You,” was moderated by Schaeffer; he was a speaker at last year’s Temecula TEDx event.
The salon consisted of three previously recorded national- and local-level TED talks that Schaeffer used to illustrate the importance of recognizing self-worth and self-determination toward achieving goals in a world where many believe success is driven by outside forces.
“Every day I talk to people in business that need help; they’re looking to grow, they’re looking on the outside,” Schaeffer said. “And I’m just like, ‘have you looked inside?’”
The first of the three talks was by Jia Jang, an entrepreneur and blogger who discussed overcoming his fear of rejection by coming up with unusual requests and seeing what kind of responses he elicited.
Jang said he was motivated by the effort of a Krispy Kreme worker, Jackie Braun, who fulfilled his request to make the Olympic Games symbol out of series of interconnected donuts.
Not only did Braun make the Olympic symbol, but she made sure the frosting color of each donut ring corresponded with the colors of the rings in the symbol. She did it all under 15 minutes, free of charge.
Jiang said he was blown away by Braun’s kindness and that it helped him on his road toward understanding his fear of rejection and how to overcome it.
Lawyer and Introversion Specialist Susan Cain was the speaker during the second pre-recorded TED talk, and she discussed the ever-increasing societal stigma toward individuals who are introverted and how that stigma is a problem.
Cain said that being an introvert isn’t something to be ashamed of or something that people should seek to overcome. Instead she said people should embrace their personality whether they be an introvert or extrovert.
“Go to the wilderness, be like Buddha, have your own revelations,” Cain said to introverts.
The last of the three talks focused on shame and how to overcome it when endeavoring to get something done. The talk was by Brené Brown, a vulnerability researcher.
Brown said that it may seem like an odd way of going about things but the best way to overcome feelings of shame is to be vulnerable and accept who you are as a person.
Marie Waite, founder of Inland Valley Business and Community Foundation, said she’s been trying to take Brown’s suggestions in stride.
Specifically, she said she has tried to be herself and tried to have honest conversations about what she would like to accomplish in terms of projects when speaking with the people that work with her.
She said she hopes her energy and her enthusiasm for accomplishing things radiates to other people and that they’ll be eager to help her in turn.
“When you show your energy, when you show your excitement – that’s part of that vulnerability that we were talking about, is just being open about what you want,” she said.
Michelle Tomsik, a quality assurance provider for a medical company in Serrano, Calif., said she agreed with the notion that opening the lines of communication is a good first step towards accomplishing work goals.
Tomsik also said she believed that self-confidence is important as a business person. In order to accomplish deals and facilitate sales with a prospective buyer, a business person must really believe in themselves and what they’re selling, she said.
“Recognizing that we have self-worth can also be recognized by other people,” she said. “When we believe we are worth what we are selling or putting forward, they will also recognize it and pay better attention to it as well.”
Jim McLaughlin, who is the moderator for the yearly TEDx Temecula events, encouraged event attendants to search within themselves and try to work on at least one thing mentioned in the videos.
“Just grab on to one thing that you can own and internalize,” McLaughlin said.