Have you ever wondered what to do with really difficult people? You know the people who are constantly in a bad mood are impossible to cheer up and seem to suck the life right out of you.
If you haven’t encountered these people yet I would guess you will before too long. Chances are you might even be that person a time or two in your life. It’s inevitable! So we better learn how to help the relationship move into a better place.
I find that one of the greatest weapons in our arsenal is a smile. Yes, that’s right showing your pearly whites can make all the difference in the world. You might be surprised to know that the Bible even tells us to smile when it says “A cheerful look brings joy to the heart.” (Proverbs 15:30)
It’s a funny thing, the smile, because grumpy people don’t know what to do with it. A smile is the first strategy for winning difficult people over and that leads us to do the next best thing, which has to do with the tone of our voice.
Now this might surprise you but the Bible doesn’t just teach us to smile it also teaches us about the tone of our voice when dealing with difficult people. It says in Proverbs 15:1 “A gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers flare.”
I’m sure you can remember a time or two when you responded with anger only to make the situation worse. I know I can. Too many times I’ve looked back on situations and relationships only to realize I didn’t handle it well at all. I forgot the power of a simple smile followed up by a gentle answer. Don’t make the same mistake.
Relationships are part of life therefore make them great. Smile at people and speak to them with kindness. If you do this you will always have friends and you will win some of the difficult ones over in the process.
Make it count,
Zachary Elliott is the lead pastor at Fusion Christian Church located in Temecula. He can be contacted at (951) 676-8511. For more information, visit www.myfusionchurch.com.