What kind of friend are you?

Lady contemplating her faith

I was standing at a graveside watching people pass by the casket to pay their respects. All was normal until an elderly man stepped off the walkway too soon and his leg went straight down into the grave. As you can imagine, panic erupted as people rushed to help the man before he fell further into the grave.

By the look on his face and his many words of thanks, he was clearly relieved to have been helped out of the hole. I would be too.

I’ve often looked back on that moment and wondered what would have happened if no one was there to help him out. By his physical stature and the precarious way his body was half in the grave with one leg in and his other leg sticking out, it would have been extremely difficult, if not impossible, to get out alone.

He needed friends in his time of difficulty. The kind of friends who at a moment’s notice would jump up and rush to his aid. Without that kind of friend, his situation might have been hopeless.

Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 said, “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.”

Are you that kind of friend?

Maybe a better question is: Are you the kind of friend you would want to have?

We all want people to help us. We need a shoulder to cry on and to get us out of trouble in a pinch. And there’s nothing wrong with that. We all need those friends.

But today I want you to consider what kind of friend you are. Who are you helping? Whose hand are you reaching out for to help them up? I’m sure there’s someone around you who needs you.

Want to know the secret to overcome your loneliness, depression, hurt, anxiety, selfishness, fear… etc.? Start being a friend to someone who needs one.

It’s the kind of friend the Bible teaches people to be when it said, “Value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others,” in Philippians 2:3-4.

Friendship triumphs over loneliness every time. Be the friend someone needs. Care for them and most importantly love them even if they’ve fallen.

I’m praying for you.

Zachary Elliott is the lead pastor of Fusion Christian Church in Temecula. For more information, visit www.myfusionchurch.com.