What would it look like if your family was united?
Let me take the liberty of answering for you. It would most certainly have less stress, fighting, anger and broken relationships, and you would have an all-around happier home.
Jesus said, “Every kingdom that is divided against itself will be destroyed. And any city [or family] that is divided against itself will not continue,” in Matthew 12:25.
If your family isn’t united, it can’t stand.
If you’ve been struggling in your marriage and home life, the five “Be”s of family unity will help get your family on the right track.
Be unified with Jesus.
The most important relationship you or your family will ever have is with Jesus. It affects your past, present and future. Hands down, your best family starts with him.
Jesus said you should seek first God’s kingdom and what God wants; then all your other needs will be met as well. If you want a unified family, it must be united in Christ.
Has Jesus been the center of your home? I’m not talking about praying for dinner before you eat, listening to Christian radio occasionally or going to church on major holidays.
I’m asking, is Jesus the focus of your family’s pursuit?
Be unified in the bedroom.
If you’re married, it shouldn’t surprise you that sex is one of the top things married couples argue about. It’s the source of a lot of confusion, pain and frustration. But it doesn’t have to be.
From the beginning, God created sex to be enjoyed between a husband and wife. Sadly, our sinful nature has perverted it to make it something God never intended. We see that in our culture now.
If you’re going to have unity in the home, you and your spouse need to be unified in the bedroom.
The Bible said, “Because there is so much sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman should have her own husband.
“The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband’s needs. The wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband gives authority over his body to his wife. Do not deprive each other of sexual relations, unless you both agree to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time so you can give yourselves more completely to prayer. Afterward, you should come together again so that Satan won’t be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control,” in 1 Corinthians 7:2-5.
Sex is an important issue. But sadly, it’s been perverted, twisted, manipulated and worshiped. That’s because Satan twists everything God intended for good. Don’t let him do that in your home.
God intended it to be an intimate, unifying and loving act between a husband and wife. It’s his good design.
Here’s the tricky part. In almost every marriage, you will have one person who is a physical touch person and one who isn’t. It’s very rare to find couples who both give and receive love through physical contact. Understanding your spouse’s needs is vital to being unified in the bedroom.
It’s critical to a healthy marriage and home. And it’s a wall of protection against the enemy.
Stay tuned for Five “Be”s of Family Unity – Part 2 next week.
Zachary Elliott is the lead pastor of Fusion Christian Church in Temecula. For more information, visit http://www.fusionchristianchurch.com, http://www.encouragementtoday.tv or find them on Instagram.